A reader just wrote to me with a question I thought I’d open up to your collective wisdom (with her permission):
She and her now-former partner created their family the same way my partner and I did: using one partner’s egg (hers) and having the other partner carry the child. They even petitioned their state to recognize them both as parents, as we did. Now they are divorced and sharing custody. While the state is giving her the same rights as any other divorced couple with kids, she says she now feels more like “the divorced dad,” paying child support but seeing the kids less than she’d like because she works full time. “I want to be the mom too! I know I am,” she writes.
Anyone else go through a similar situation? How did you handle it? Please share in the comments.