Slate did a weekend review of “Super Books for Pretty Good Moms: Parenting guides that won’t make you even more anxious than you already are.” Whether you’re an anxious parent or a calm one, you’re most likely familiar with how the media plays up these anxieties (and then tries to sell us the solutions). This got me interested in running a little poll:
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I said equally anxious but about different things. Now, I’m answering from the pov of lesbians and maybe it’s different for two men but for two women, I feel like we didn’t worry: what if I don’t know how to give a bottle or what if I can’t comfort him/her (although maybe that’s very stereotypical). But I worry about things like my wife not having insurance and what if my kids get to school and are faced with discrimination or cruelty. And I certainly worry about something happening to my wife before we can complete the second parent adoption.
I picked more anxious. I think to a time where a neighborhood kid we didn’t know well fell in front of our house while the kids were playing. The first instinct is to pick the kid up, bring him in the house and clean up scrapes. Instead, we ran into the house and brought all the first aid outside- so no improprieties could be claimed since we did not know the parents and how they would react.
Its that always second guessing yourself, scanning for safety of the crowd you are in , etc that makes me feel we must be more anxious.