Adoptive Family magazine has a good article on how to deal with insensitive comments relatives may make about adopted children. They recommend that you:
- Appoint yourself ambassador of adoption.
- “Immunize” yourself before family encounters.
- Do a background check [with other relatives, not the FBI] on problematic relatives.
- Hold your ground firmly but with compassion.
Much of their advice makes good sense for LGBT parents in general, whether or not you’re an adoptive parent. Too many of us still have to cope with intractable or insensitive relatives. Read the full article for more details on how to cope.