The New York Times ran an article on Valentine’s Day about couples where one member is the predominant— and dominating—cook in the household. The story focuses on straight couples, but it made me laugh with recognition. I freely admit to being the “alpha chef” around our house. I think it’s less because of any hidden domestic urges and more because I have a secret desire to be on Iron Chef.
Any other couples among my readers who share this dynamic about cooking? Is one of you the boss in the kitchen, even if you share equally in other areas? Does the other person resent it? What happens when you try to cook something together? Has the balance shifted since you’ve had kids?
Turning to the world of lesbian professional chefs, who are surely the kitchen bosses in their homes, Curve magazine has a feature article this month (not yet online) about a few rising stars. And if you’re a fan of food blogs and haven’t yet discovered pastry-chef Shuna Fish Lydon’s Eggbeater, you really should. Finally, Iron Chef and lesbian mom Cat Cora has just become the new spokesperson for U.S. Farm-Raised Catfish. Maybe I’ll go blacken some on the grill tonight in her honor. Stand back, honey.