Oprah’s “A-ha” Moment About Gay Parents

Oprah Winfrey with Neil Patrick Harris, fiancé David Burtka and their twins at their home in Los Angeles, CA / © 2012 Harpo Inc./George Burns

It’s nice to know that even as accomplished a person as Oprah Winfrey is still open to learning a thing or two. In her interview with actor Neil Patrick Harris and his fiancé David Burtka, which airs tonight, June 3, at 9 p.m. ET/PT on “Oprah’s Next Chapter,” the three of them have this exchange about the gay dads and their 18-month-old twins, Harper and Gideon:

Oprah: Have you all thought about what you are going to tell Harper and Gideon about having two daddies and not two mommies and the first time they come home and say, whoever their friend is, ‘They have a mommy; why don’t I?’

Neil: We’re going to tell them information. I want them to have information. And I think the way that they were brought into this world was very unique and weirdly scientific and the technology involved in it I think is remarkable. But it came because we really, really wanted kids. Like we really had thought it through, financially, emotionally, relationship wise, like we didn’t just accidentally get pregnant and decide that now we need to make this work. These kids come into our world with nothing but love…

Oprah: I just had an a-ha moment that almost made me tear up there just a little bit. You know what, I just realized what you were saying. I had an a-ha moment!

Neil: Nice!

Oprah: Because, same-sex couples, in order to have a child, means you really really really gotta do a lot of work to make that happen.

David and Neil: Oh yeah.

David: Definitely.

Oprah: So if you are a same-sex couple that has a child it means that child is so loved and so wanted. You just saying that just went bing bing bing! I never thought of it that way before.

A video clip from the show is below. (Reload the page if it isn’t visible at first.)

First Look: At Home with Neil Patrick Harris, David Burtka and Their Twins

In this television exclusive, Oprah visits the home of actor Neil Patrick Harris; his fiancé, David Burtka; and their 18-month-old twins, Harper and Gideon. Neil and David talk candidly about coming out, their decision to have children, and the pressures of life in Hollywood. Tune in Sunday, June 3, at 9/8c!

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