Selves and Identities

Do People Take Women with Short Hair More Seriously?

Strollerderby asks this provoking question in reference to Hillary Clinton. Heh. If it was true, of course, there would have been a lesbian president long ago, and Martina Navratilova’s birthday would be a national holiday. (Yeah, yeah. It’s a stereotype. Laugh with me here.)

What Are Your Wishes for 2008?

What are some of your wishes for the coming year: personal, familial, professional, or political? For me: I wish for family stability. An interstate move last year (and six months of living apart from Helen during the week while we tried to sell our old house) was enough upheaval for a while. I wish to

Egg and sperm

Conception Misconceptions

I really don’t want to be writing about sperm again. Some won’t stop, however, and so I find myself once again turning to matters seminal to clear up some misconceptions about donor-conceived children.

“She Got Me Pregnant”: Episode Seven

In this edition of our weekly video blog, brought to you in partnership with After Ellen, Helen and I use Jodie Foster’s increasing openness about her personal life as an excuse to talk about why it’s important for parents to be honest about their families. How does being out (or not) impact children’s sense of

Butch-Femme Holiday Gift Question

OK, my ever-insightful readers: Which of the following items best represents an amalgam of butch-femme, a perfect gift for the keep-’em-guessing lesbian: The Swiss Army Knife in a pink floral pattern or the KitchenAid Mixer with the flame detailing? Other suggestions welcome.

Hate Crimes, Violence, and Jodie Foster

The LGBT-inclusive Hate Crimes Bill, aka the Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act, is dead. House Democrats removed it from the Defense Reauthorization bill to which it was attached. According to the Washington Blade, “gay-supportive Democrats who oppose the war would join more than 150 Republicans who oppose the hate crimes bill to defeat the

A Question for You All: Divorcing with Kids

A reader just wrote to me with a question I thought I’d open up to your collective wisdom (with her permission): She and her now-former partner created their family the same way my partner and I did: using one partner’s egg (hers) and having the other partner carry the child. They even petitioned their state

The Dauntless Book for Lesbians?

Even if you haven’t yet read my rather lengthy review of The Daring Book for Girls, I thought it might be interesting to take the book’s basic premise—a compendium of activities and information across a range of subjects, things every girl should know—and see if we could give it a lesbian twist. (I’d do a

Transgender Day of Remembrance

Today marks the 9th annual Transgender Day of Remembrance, “set aside to memorialize those who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice.” The event organizers explain: The event honors Rita Hester, whose murder in 1998 kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project and a San Francisco candlelight vigil in 1999. Since then, the

The Importance of Supportive Parents

Actor Candis Cayne plays one of the few transgender roles on primetime television (in ABC’s Dirty Sexy Money), and is transgender herself. ABC News has a profile on her today. What stands out for me in the article is Cayne’s description of her parents’ reaction when she came out as transgender: “When I told my

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