9/11: Of Remembrance and Hope
Only a chance change of job kept me from being at the World Trade Center site on September 11, 2001. Shortly afterward, my spouse and I began to talk seriously about having a child.
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Back-to-School Tips for LGBTQ Parents: 2023
Back-to-school time can be daunting for any parent. LGBTQ parents may have particular concerns, too, about how welcoming a school will be. I’m not here to tell you it will all be fine, but I will offer some advice based on my own experience.
The Queer Parent’s Agenda: An Illustrative List
My son is in college now, but it feels like just yesterday he was in preschool and my day of queer parenting looked something like this.
Listen to My Spouse and Me on the “Donor Conception Conversations” Podcast
My spouse Helen and I recently chatted with Lisa Schuman of the Donor Conception Conversations podcast about creating our family via reciprocal IVF 20 years ago, talking with our son about his donor, interacting with his schools, legally securing my parentage, and much more. Have a listen!
Donor-Conceived Adults with Lesbian Parents Satisfied With Level of Donor Contact, Known or Unknown: Study
Adults conceived through donor insemination (DI) who have lesbian parents are generally satisfied with the amount of contact they have with their donors, whether or not they know them, according to the latest results from the longest-running study of lesbian families.
Adults With LGBTQ Parents Speak Out on Donors, Discrimination, Advocacy, and More
Adults with LGBTQ parents have been in the media lately talking about the varied meanings of genetic connections and donor kin, facing discrimination, the pressure to conform, finding community, and advocating for themselves and their families. Take a look at these good reads!
One Year Later: How LGBTQ Parents Can Protect Their Families After Dobbs
Shortly after the U.S. Supreme Court decision that overturned abortion rights a year ago, I spoke with two leading LGBTQ family law experts about how LGBTQ families can protect themselves from the ruling’s impact. It’s still relevant, so I’m reposting it along with some new resources and information.
“LGBTQ Paths to Parentage Security”: New Guide from GLAD and Mombian Helps LGBTQ Parents Understand Options for Protecting Their Families
GLBTQ Legal Advocates & Defenders (GLAD) and Mombian have partnered to create “LGBTQ Paths to Parentage Security,” a resource for LGBTQ parents and others that answers frequently asked questions about how LGBTQ+ parents can ensure their child-parent relationships will be secure and recognized in every state.
Mombian’s Fabulous Father’s Day List of Picture Books Featuring LGBTQ Dads
For Father’s Day or all year long, I’m highlighting some recent picture books featuring LGBTQ dads and rounding up some older ones, soothing, serious, and silly. Find something new or be inspired by an old favorite! And a very happy day to all who call themselves a father!
Of Hate and Hope: Explaining the Pulse Massacre to My Son
I first wrote this in 2016, shortly after the shooting at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando that killed 49 mostly Latine, LGBTQ young people. Seven years later, I am reposting it as a reminder to remember, to teach, and to act.