Queer Parenting in a Cishet World

Considering Parenthood - 1985

Wisdom from a 1985 Parenthood Book for Lesbians

For Women’s History Month, let’s take a trip back to 1985, when a book for lesbians considering parenthood—one of the first books about queer parents—offered some wisdom that still feels relevant today.

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3 Key Things for LGBTQ Prospective Parents to Know

Starting a family is always a momentous decision. Doing so as an LGBTQ person often means additional complexities and considerations, especially at a time when our rights and identities are under attack. For those considering parenthood or newly decided on it, here are three things I would emphasize right now.

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10 Things LGBTQ Families Can Do to Find Strength in 2025

As I write this piece, we are just a few weeks away from arguably the most actively and intentionally anti-LGBTQ federal administration ever. It’s going to be a rough few years for many of us. Here are 10 things we can do in the year ahead to support ourselves and our families legally, emotionally, and communally.

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Finding Resilience in Tough Times

Awful news seems to dominate lately: A school shooting in Georgia. A trans teen severely beaten in Massachusetts. Hundreds of anti-LGBTQ bills. Violence and war around the world. An uncertain election. Add to this the varied challenges each of us encounters in our daily lives. How do we resist being overwhelmed?

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Inspiration from 5 Early Lesbian Parenting Books

In honor of Lesbian Visibility Day, here are some inspiring quotes from lesbian parenting books published in the 1980s through early 2000s. While these books are in many ways outdated, they still convey something of the spirit and long history of lesbian parenthood, and are reminders of those on whose shoulders we stand.

We're Here, We're Queer, and We Are Family

We’re Here, We’re Queer, and We Are Family

It’s a tough time to be an LGBTQ parent in the United States. Between legislation that threatens our ability to form and protect our families, attacks on books and media that reflect them, and concerns that impact all parents, like school shootings and pandemics, we may feel stressed and overwhelmed. Without denying those ills or our need to address them (which I have covered before and will again), I want to focus here on a few positive things to keep in mind.

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Telling Our Family Histories

October is LGBTQ History Month, and I could write, as I have in the past, about the long history of LGBTQ parents, arguably going back to Sappho (7th-6th century BCE) and Alexander the Great (4th century BCE). This year, I instead want to remind us that we and our families are part of this long history, and to encourage us to think about how we can preserve our own family histories and pass them on to our children.

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